duality n. The quality or character of being twofold; dichotomy.
Have you ever met someone and they seemed one way in the beginning, and a completely opposing way within a very short period? What’s that all about? As if it isn’t hard enough to figure people out [Not really, but we'll get to that later...] then they go and throw you for a serious loop and get all Dr. Jekyll & Mr. Hide on you!!! [LOL, but not really]
This is why I stress and urge you Ladies & Fellas, DO NOT sleep with someone you just met! Yes, there are those very few couples who have consummated on the first date and they’re living their happily-ever-after… [They are the exception, but not the rule!] That does not happen too often [Stella, why so negative?] Ha! I’m not negative, just a realist! There is a difference. Let’s move on…
Most people, male & female, live in a cloud of darkness anyway-meandering around Earth in a fog … I’m gonna need for you to wake up and pay closer attention to the company you keep and where you sleep. I hear countless stories about Love & Loss of Love, and the confusion it causes. What’s to be confused about? Let me give you the rocket science of how to figure people out [In case you didn't notice, it's later...]:
**Are you ready? Ok, here it is … STOP! Yup, that’s it! Stop trying to figure people out and simplify your life and your understanding of the Human race to this:
-We ALL lie [Yes, you too!] at some point and for NO reason.
-We ALL embellish … something! [Yeah ok, think back to that time when you told... UH HUH, I thought so! 
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-People are lost, confused, hurt, and/or ignorant [Yes, I said it, ignorant!]Yes, me too… to something 
Ignorant, Defined: “unaware because of a lack of relevant information or knowledge; “he was completely ignorant of the circumstances” [From the WWW].
-We speak expectations into the Universe and when we get them, we have no clue how to handle them, or it was not exactly what we wanted in the first place [Be careful of what you wish for] Here’s a better statement to put into the Universe [Dear heavenly Father, I want what you want for me. You know my past, my future, and my heart-send me the Man/Woman that you designed for me. Help me to heal, so I am able to accept him/her when they come. And, help me to be able to accept his/her love when they share it. In Jesus' name, I thank you.] Copy and paste it if you have to and believe on it 100%.
I hear the Fellas say they want a “Strong Woman” one who is self-sufficient, doesn’t need HIM to take care of her. Then, they tell her she’s TOO strong! Or, she act like she don’t need a man… blah blah blah [I'm scratching my head now...]
I hear the Ladies say they want a “Good Man” one who pays the bills, takes care of home and the kids, and spoils them. I personally know of at least 3 to 5 of my male friends who are/have been this way to their Wives/Significant others. Then, she sits around getting her hair and nails done, trying to keep up with her girl who happens to date a big-baller! Or, she barely keeps the house clean, dinner is not cooked, and he gets home late from working and she nags him because he took too long! [What part of working and taking care of the home didn't you understand?]
I do realize that some Fellas take care of the $$$ aspect, but then neglect the Wifey on all other accords. Guys! You have to learn balance [Shut up! It is NOT hard, no harder than you bustin your tail at someone else's company or your own to get what you want].
I do realize there are some women who act jaded/angry towards men and DO treat the man like he’s disposable. Ladies, you can’t do that and expect to attract him or keep him. Lighten up, its only life. Relax, they are not all the same [Ummm, well.... Ok, no they're not...Lol!] and a decent guy, perhaps even a really good one is out there that you can allow your guard to come down for. Have faith! Repeat the prayer from above.
As for me, I choose to be single, because I am a much better judge of character than I used to be, and I take my time to feel a man up… Oooops! I meant feel a man out… [LOL, just a lil' humor] Anyway, I simply have not met the guy whom God has designed me for [Plus, most of them run(figuratively) when I tell them "Oh, BTW, I'm Abstinent until I meet the RIGHT ONE... LOL! No worries].
Know this, just because you are attractive, smart, talented, and fine does not make it any easier! Trust me, I KNOW [Toot, Toot!] Seriously, sometimes the better and more well-rounded you are, the harder it gets to meet someone of your caliber [I'm just sayin...] Remember what I said earlier, people often ask for what they have no clue on how to handle.
I Digress,
Til’ next time,
S~
Beware of Duality...
